What I need to know before I have sex with someone

I work with many female clients and there’s often a discussion about how we know we’re ready to have sex with a new partner.

I need to know my new partner can;

– have shame-free and practical conversations about sex.
– be comfortable with intimacy.
– make eye contact.
– breath with me.
– slow down, especially their touch.
– do less, and get less busy with sex.
– self-regulate when excited.
– pause.
– move their body.
– touch me without expectations.
– play without the goal of genitals or orgasm.
– stop and step away from arousal without need for completion / goal / orgasm.
– be fully present with me, not in fantasy.
– offer aftercare.

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