The Sex Chats, Brighton. Thursday 29th February, Brighton

The Sex Chats, Brighton.
Hosted by Jem Ayres & Bear Philips.
Thursday 29th February

Nightingale Room, Grand Central (upstairs)
£15 earlybird (limited)
£18 in advance.  
£20 on the door (not necessarily available)

29th Feb Ticket link:


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Where no sexy topic is off limits: A night of Sexperts sharing their pearls, ideas and teachings on bodies, intimacy and sex.
From the leading conscious sex pioneers & trail blazers who work in the sex-positive field, with ideas that may shock, surprise & excite.

Out intentions for Sex Chats, Brighton:
• To create a night of sex positive speakers to explore subjects that may be new, edgy and/or exciting in a held space.
• To share information, education and ideas from professionals and creatives in the sex positive field.
• To normalise the discussion of intimacy, bodies, sex and pleasure
• To give us a language to use around sex, intimacy and pleasure.
• To release any shame around talking about sex, intimacy, and pleasure.
• To learn from each other and have a place to ask questions you wouldn’t discuss at the dinner table.

Our topics can include:
Consent & techniques. 
Body Image.
Full Body Orgasms.
Cock Love.  
Yoni Worship. 
Sacred Sexuality.  
Conscious kink & fetish.  
LGBTQ+ community. 
How to keep sex fresh & juicy.
Slut & Smut.
Monogamy, polyogomy & everything in between. 

Speakers for February 2024:

“How Our Attachment Style Runs Our Sex Life”
Fennel Waters

Fennel’s talk explores how our attachment styles form the foundations of our experience and use of sex; along with some suggestions as to how we can alchemise indoctrinated behaviours in order to have healthier pleasure.

Fennel Waters (she/they) – a.k.a The Fenwitch – is a queer, neurospicy, sapio & pansexual hu-being, a qualified life coach (empowerment, relationships & intimacy, attachment styles), workshop facilitator, speaker, accredited Mindfulness trainer, and working witch.

They also lead the Sex Positive  Community Vermilion,  which raises awareness of, and encourages co-creation and co-education in the sex positive field.

“Intimacy with Shadow Work”
Brydie Rowan

Intimacy is a closeness with and a sharing of the truth… and it begins with oneself.

This talk sheds light on what shadow is and how we may gain insight from our shadows, to come home to ourselves and each other.

Brydie Rowan is a Mama, a Mover, Maker and Mentor working with creativity.

Teaching, training and mentoring in somatic movement and Yoga for over a decade as well as trained in ShadowWork ® facilitation.

“The rebellious power of romance: queering and kinking happy ever afters”
Ali Williams

Ali Williams is a queer author who writes erotic romance and steamy paranormals as Ali Williams and fluffy and spicy romances as Ellie Rose. Her books are kinky and neurodiverse, and always have a Happy Ever After!

“Conscious relating as a feminist man in 2024”
Paul Johnston-Knight

What does it mean to be a male feminist? What experiences and changes have I noticed in my life  

What is conscious relating and how does it affect me?

How do these 2 elements combine to influence and improve my existence in 2024?

Paul Johnston-Knight is a holder of mens circles, conscious relater, father, grandfather, Yorkshire-born businessman & resident of Brighton & Hove

“The Art of Burlesque: Empowerment, Education & Equality”
Romy Alford

Romy Alford will be talking about her experiences and mission to champion transformation in the arts, the inspiration behind Lulu’s Black Market taking cues from the transformative period of the 1940’s, an era marked by resilience and unity. She will be speaking about how every victory we achieve when our community is represented in the mainstream media fuels her determination to “Make Do and Mend”.

Romy is owner of Lulu’s Black Market: 5* reviewed burlesque events designed to empower everyone involved. “Think of us as ethical entertainment!” says Romy. As an educator in the arts she seeks to create greater diversity and inclusion.

More to be confirmed

About your hosts:
(Professional S*x Coaches & Trauma-informed bodyworkers)

Jem Ayres

Jem is a certified Sex Geek –  A trauma-informed, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Sex Coach, Tantra practitioner and teacher. She is the Founder of Orgasmic Embodiment, and  leads workshops, retreats and hosts talks on conscious sexuality.

Co-Founder of Brighton Talks Sex, and co-host of Desire & Intimacy Conscious Sexuality Gathering for people under 40.

Jem has over 10 years’ experience in the field of self-development through the body and teaches what she calls ‘Sexual Self-Development’.

Overcoming stage 4 cancer became her focus for a while, and through this process she embraced and worked with the healing power of orgasm, both teaching and speaking regularly on Full Body Orgasm, using life force for healing.

Jem’s teaching on Full Body Orgasm, featured on Channel 4s ‘Sex Actually With Alice Levine’ Episode 3; Sexual Healing 2021, and Channel 5 documentary  ‘Adults Only: I Need Sexual Healing’ Series 3, Episode 8.

Multi-talented and creative, she is passionate about helping people to connect with themselves through the body, fine-tuning into the subtleties of our life force, using sexual energy to fuel all areas of life.

Bear Phillips

Bear Phillips (he/ him) was an architect and designer for 30 years before giving it up, at the height of his career, to become a sex-worker. He is a trauma-informed bodyworker, and an Intimacy, Dating & Relationship coach. As a coach he works primarily with men around questions of masculinity, misogyny, and patriarchy (and how these impact our most intimate relationships). He has training in psychotherapy, and is currently completing the Compassionate Inquiry Professional Training with Dr Gabor Maté. In his previous life Bear was an internationally exhibited contemporary artist, an educator, and an academic with a Masters in Research & Cultural Studies. He is currently writing his first book.

With hosts who are eyebrow deep in the s*x positive community, these nights of talks promise to be the sex education we NEVER had at school.

The place to shake off any shame and brazenly ask questions you wouldn’t ask elsewhere.

No Nudity.

No Under 18’s.

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